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Originally Posted by SSearchVT  Actually it's a MILFA... Mother I'd Like to F**k Again...
I was sort of in a similar situation (a little older, two boys, etc). The kid already has a father, so you're not going to fill that position. You can however be a positive model for him.
You're not the diciplinarian - that's the parents role. You are allowed to get mad if - for example he breaks something of yours. Let his mother know what he did. Let her be the one to hand out the punishments, etc. Be prepared to have dates cut short/cancelled at the drop of a hat. Things happen with kids.
Is she on good terms with her ex? If not, and he doesn't want her dating, he can make it real tough, real fast. |
I was in a very similar situation to what you & Ryan are both saying, and that there is great advice. Not saying it's what you're into Ryan, but I've been with the same MILFA for 14 years now and married to her for 10 of those. Besides having a hand in raising her then 3 year old (she's 17 now-YIKES!), we also have 2 children of our own together. Nothing in a million years woulda led me to believe I'd be where I am now-NOTHING. But I couldn't be happier. If you're thinking a split is inevitible and it'll be hard cuzza the kid, think of this - the only thing that'll really matter at that point is that for some amount of time you have a positive impact on the kid. In his eyes, you'll be the good guy no matter what for many years to come...
Holy fuck! Did I just say all that???