Welcome to NESR! Most features of this site require registration, including replying to threads, sending private messages, starting new threads, and uploading files. Click here to register.

Page 1 of 5 12345 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 105

Dating Again

  1. #1
    Posting Freak OneCheekRider's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Location
    LA
    Posts
    795

    Dating Again


    Been out of the dating game for almost a decade...what are some good dating tips, first date ideas, etc? Dropped 40lbs since re-entering single-life and the ladies have been lining up...used to be good at this...

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  2. #2
    suburban ghetto living... black's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2004
    Location
    Wilmington, MA
    Age
    46
    Posts
    1,736

    Re: Dating Again

    grinder app

    11 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    hmmmm......

  3. #3
    Posting Freak OneCheekRider's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Location
    LA
    Posts
    795

    Re: Dating Again

    what is that, an app for power tools? sandwiches?

    1 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  4. #4
    suburban ghetto living... black's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2004
    Location
    Wilmington, MA
    Age
    46
    Posts
    1,736

    Re: Dating Again

    mmm sandwiches...
    ... nah really.. dating seems 90% online stuff.
    It turns into a shotgun approach almost.
    Usually once a connection is established and texting is going well. A low key drink and apps during the week ensues ( last from 1hr to 2 hours)
    thus your not out on a ton of money for dinner dirnks dessert.
    In Boston My go to was masa in the south end with 50cents tapas on thursday.
    Tapas was a go to for me and I used to hit hammersley's? fo rdesert if everything was going really well.

    1 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    hmmmm......

  5. #5
    Lifer loudbeard's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Location
    Rehoboth MA
    Age
    37
    Posts
    4,416

    Re: Dating Again

    You already possess the best dating tip

    Now get yourself a tube of Nair for your crack and a fresh pack of razors for your balls.

    2 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    I went to MMI I know what Im doing here chief

  6. #6
    Senior Member capitalcrew's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2017
    Location
    Albany NY
    Posts
    741

    Re: Dating Again

    You know how when you first go on a date and someone does something that you think is maybe a little off but it's just a fluke because you wanna get in her pants?

    Don't dismiss that. Hit it and run. Bitches are crazy.

    5 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  7. #7
    Changes come butcher bergs's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    the humbling river
    Posts
    12,523

    Re: Dating Again

    Nothing's changed in 10 years. Women still have vaginas.

    Add some liquid panty remover and you will see.

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  8. #8
    Lifer PhilB's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Pittsfield, NH
    Age
    57
    Posts
    3,131

    Re: Dating Again

    lol.

    I'd say the most important tip is to figure out and be clear on what you are looking for.
    What is acceptable, and what are your deal-breakers.
    What's important to you in a relationship (if that's what you're looking for) and what isn't.
    Keeping clear on that will be your best "wingman".

    Take up quilting. I'm only sort of kidding. If you have a genuine interest (don't fake anything; that way disaster lies) in any traditionally female hobby, cultivate that.
    Like when a woman shows up at a bike club with a genuine interest in bikes, and gets mobbed; it works the other way, too.

    That said, I met my wife on match.com, 18 years ago, so online can be a good option if you're smart about it.

    For first dates, my advice will be general. Don't get too fancy and elaborate.
    The goal is to get to know someone, and give her the chance to get to know you. Too much hubbub, and that gets missed.
    You also (presumably) are looking for someone who actually likes you, and will want to spend some time with you.
    Not just someone who wants mainly to be impressed and spent money on.

    A meet for coffee, in a place that is near some interesting things to see and do, can be perfect. Nobody is obligated or trapped.
    If coffee goes well, then extend an invitation to get up and walk in the park or see the nearby museum or whatever it is.
    Women often appreciate not feeling like they will be stuck in a situation if it isn't working out.

    PhilB

    1 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    Last edited by PhilB; 04-27-17 at 02:07 PM.
    "A free man must be able to endure it when his fellow men act and live otherwise than he considers proper." -- Ludwig von Mises
    1993 Ducati Monster M900; 265,000 miles -- killed by minivan 30Oct17

  9. #9

    Re: Dating Again

    Bumble socal chicks are gorgeous

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    FREE $10 UBER CREDIT W' PROMO CODE --> PON41
    1994 Yamaha YZ250 CA Street Legal 2-smoke :smoke: ** 2005 Kawasaki Ninja 500R **
    instagram @veshlife

  10. #10
    Lifer BSR6's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Posts
    1,058

    Re: Dating Again

    Step 1: Educate yourself on the subject you wish to pursue...

    The Universal Hot vs Crazy Matrix - a Man's Guide to Women - YouTube

    4 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  11. #11
    Super Moderator TheIglu's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2003
    Location
    Royalston, MA
    Age
    40
    Posts
    20,349

    Re: Dating Again

    Change who you are completely to appeal to a woman more. Then, after moving in together, bail on all that nonsense and let your own self shine!

    15 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    -Clayton
    2006 Suzuki SV650
    2004 Suzuki Vstrom 650
    2001 Kawasaki ZRX1200R
    1982 Honda CB750F Super Sport

  12. #12
    Back marker... jwm2k3's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2004
    Location
    Salem, MA
    Age
    48
    Posts
    5,272

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by BSR6 View Post
    Step 1: Educate yourself on the subject you wish to pursue...

    The Universal Hot vs Crazy Matrix - a Man's Guide to Women - YouTube
    Ahhhh.....the elusive Unicorn

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    Johnny

    Its an Italian bike...Ive had (have?) a few

  13. #13
    Super Moderator TheIglu's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2003
    Location
    Royalston, MA
    Age
    40
    Posts
    20,349

    Re: Dating Again

    Wait, LA?

    Yeah. Check under the hood to make sure what's advertised as a slush-box isn't a manual.

    5 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    -Clayton
    2006 Suzuki SV650
    2004 Suzuki Vstrom 650
    2001 Kawasaki ZRX1200R
    1982 Honda CB750F Super Sport

  14. #14
    Lifer Falko's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    MoonTown
    Posts
    5,092

    Re: Dating Again

    this thread is the exact reason my marriage has lasted so long...

    2 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    Dad's Dream: Earn enough money to live the life that his wife and kids do.

  15. #15
    Back marker... jwm2k3's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2004
    Location
    Salem, MA
    Age
    48
    Posts
    5,272

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by Falko View Post
    this thread is the exact reason my marriage has lasted so long...
    Wanna know something fucked up....there are threads on this forum that may be the exact reason my marriage didnt last longer....

    2 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    Johnny

    Its an Italian bike...Ive had (have?) a few

  16. #16
    Lifer obsolete's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    Norf Sho
    Age
    40
    Posts
    11,230

    Re: Dating Again

    First date: Drinks to make sure you don't hate each other and to ensure they're roughly in the same pound range their pics would lead you to believe.
    Second Date: Dinner and something interesting or fun. Batting cage, live music, local theater show, museum, skee ball... etc.
    Third Date: Cook dinner with them.

    Alternate: Tequila shots and smash on the first date.

    1 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    -Alex
    I can resist everything but Pete's mom.

  17. #17
    Lifer PhilB's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Pittsfield, NH
    Age
    57
    Posts
    3,131

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by TheIglu View Post
    Wait, LA?

    Yeah. Check under the hood to make sure what's advertised as a slush-box isn't a manual.
    ... or vice-versa ...

    PhilB

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    "A free man must be able to endure it when his fellow men act and live otherwise than he considers proper." -- Ludwig von Mises
    1993 Ducati Monster M900; 265,000 miles -- killed by minivan 30Oct17

  18. #18

    Re: Dating Again

    Also consider moving out of LA LOL

    Dating here is super "laid back"...most people out here recreationally date for years without it going anywhere (while dating other people)

    On the other hand, I meet so many single girls in their 30's with egg drying anxiety...And guys don't wanna marry or go long term...So if you're looking for it, you will stand out

    1 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    Last edited by breakdirt916; 04-27-17 at 03:02 PM.
    FREE $10 UBER CREDIT W' PROMO CODE --> PON41
    1994 Yamaha YZ250 CA Street Legal 2-smoke :smoke: ** 2005 Kawasaki Ninja 500R **
    instagram @veshlife

  19. #19
    xxaarraa
    Guest

    Re: Dating Again

    No offense to OP, but NESR is the last place in the milky way galaxy that I would come for dating advice. I'd ask the Klingons about dating before asking NESR.

    4 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  20. #20
    Senior Member capitalcrew's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2017
    Location
    Albany NY
    Posts
    741

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by TheIglu View Post
    Change who you are completely to appeal to a woman more. Then, after moving in together, bail on all that nonsense and let your own self shine!
    Did this with current girlfriend. She hates me.

    Don't be like me.

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  21. #21
    Backwoods lobster boy number9's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Location
    Hanover, NH
    Posts
    4,278

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by Pinned View Post
    You already possess the best dating tip

    Now get yourself a tube of Nair for your crack and a fresh pack of razors for your balls.
    In Australia we refer to something like that as a "back, crack and sack" wax.

    2 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    '02 Ducati 998, '08 Ducati HyperMotard 1100S, '14 Subaru XV Crosstrek

  22. #22
    Posting Freak OneCheekRider's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Location
    LA
    Posts
    795

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by xxaarraa View Post
    No offense to OP, but NESR is the last place in the milky way galaxy that I would come for dating advice. I'd ask the Klingons about dating before asking NESR.
    oh come on, you think I made this with the expectation it would be 100% serious? Any other forum/platform would be too boring, plus I got to stand out now so these crazy ideas might just be crazy enough to work

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!

  23. #23
    Lifer Tekime's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2016
    Location
    Falmouth, ME
    Age
    41
    Posts
    1,336

    Re: Dating Again

    My sister lives in LA

    She got out of a looong relationship and did the tinder thing for a while, lots of wackos on there, dated someone through work, also a wacko, it sounds like people are very casual about dating/relationships out there compared to new england but there are wackos no matter where you go.

    Same thing I tell my recently divorced friend, tinder/online dating is a fucking gamble (literally and figuratively), not a bad thing but also find stuff you like to do and meet people that way, common interests are supposedly important

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    05GSXR75005SV65090DR350

  24. #24
    Lifer Garandman's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Location
    Dorchester, MA / Mt Sunapee, NH
    Posts
    11,113

    Re: Dating Again

    Quote Originally Posted by OneCheekRider View Post
    oh come on, you think I made this with the expectation it would be 100% serious? Any other forum/platform would be too boring, plus I got to stand out now so these crazy ideas might just be crazy enough to work
    Batting cage!

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!
    If you get a thumbs down from me, pm me, it was inadvertent

  25. #25
    Bizarro Zoolander Petorius's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Why am I still here?
    Posts
    2,031

    Re: Dating Again

    1. Optimize tinder profile- Research how to take the best headshots (angle, jawline, squinching, etc), dress nice and take a few of those, grab a few GOOD photos with friends, a racing shot (or whatever you do that's cool). Write something in the text. Ask your friends to review the whole thing. Get a review on r/tinder, if necessary. If you manage to make yourself look better than a 6, superlikes will work like magic.
    2. Research demographic-appropriate openers. No need for genuine creativity, the internet is here for you. Just make it easy for them to respond. Get digits and move to texting ASAP. Setup a time to meet for coffee or drinks within a day or two.
    3. FUCK WADDU I DO NOW?!?

    0 Not allowed! Not allowed!

Page 1 of 5 12345 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •