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    I've recently found out one of my close friends has started dating an ex-girlfriend of mine. I was with the girl for quite a while and have known the friend for a long time also. I cant help to think that he just wants to get in her pants and ditch her. (as i've seen him do to plenty of other girls) my question to you guys is what should i do? when i first found out i wanted to throw punches, but now that I've cooled off I've been thinking whether or not this is worth losing a friendship. so lets hear it...

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    Re: Ex-girlfriend+bestfriend=?

    i thought it was guy code that a friend (1) had to ask the friend (2) if it was OK to his (2) Ex and as form of good gesture friend (2) had to say yes to friend (1)... but there is some sort of time limit like 6 months or something and there can be no chance of reconciliation.

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    Re: Ex-girlfriend+bestfriend=?

    no guy code here... i pretty much caught him with her. I'm pretty pissed off at this point. I was thinking of just making it a point to get with a couple of his ex's in return, but i don't know if i even want that... OK maybe if i wrap it up.

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    Two words:

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    honest answer? tell him your pissed, if he ditches her... well did YOU ditch her? oh yeah, then knock him senseless.... no time limit in my eyes... ex. girls of friends is off limits in my book... unless he comes to you saying its ok...

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    Who do you care more about? Her feelings or his? If you don't want to lose the friendship, then it sounds like you care more about him and his friendship than her feelings, but if that is true, why are you so pissed? You are coming across frighteningly possessive. Do you actually like the girl? If so, warn her. If you couldn't give two shits about her, let their little fling run its course and stop pretending like she is your property to get territorial about.

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    Don't go throwing punches.

    It will only cause you more trouble than you would ever want.

    The one thing about girls there is always another right around the corner.

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    Re: Ex-girlfriend+bestfriend=?

    How long has it been?

    ...is she drop dead gorgeous???

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    are they both consenting adults? would either of them welcome your advice? if the answers are 'yes' and 'no' then let it go. she's no longer your girlfriend and he's still your friend...

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    Quote Originally Posted by 04ZRX View Post
    Just tell him you contracted crabs from her & that is why you ditched her.

    See how fast he gets out of her life after that conversation.

    That wont work! Guys will do anything for pussy. Kinda like women will do anything for money.
    IMO, he's a looser for doing this to you. There are plenty other fish in the world!
    Goes to show you he wanted to bang her while you were still with he. Dont waste yer time slapping him around...

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    I went out with a friends wife (we were all friends) after he divorced her (married for 9 months) and the divorce was finalized. Truth be told that while the two were going thru the divorce our friends group never saw him around. He just disappeared. I'm guessing she was fair game.

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    Re: Ex-girlfriend+bestfriend=?

    Maybe you need a best friend upgrade. I wouldn't fuck with any of my best friend's Ex's... under any circumstances (well, almost, but DEFINITELY not without his knowledge, consent, etc). Why fuck with my best friend's head when there are bars and bars and bars full of women? Maybe my definition of "best" friend differs... I wouldn't be mad at the guy... he just would cease to be the "best" friend. It has nothing to do with her. It's based solely on principle. A dude that goes behind your back to fuck with your ex doesn't meet the criteria.

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    Here's what you do - is there any chance at all you can bang her again? because if you can, hit it, quit it, then tell them both you have genital warts.

    Problem solved.

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    I have been in the same situation with someone that used to be a good friend,we were all friends at one time (me the ex and the friend) he actually set us up we were together for 8 years and have 2 kids and shortly after he was fukin around with her we had a blow out and i didnt talk to him at all for 3 years and one day he came by the house and apoligized to me and said he missed hanging out with me and i said it was ok, but i will tell you this we dont hang out much and i dont trust him and i will always remember it in the back of my mind.Life is too short to dwell on stuff like this it eats you up inside and is not worth it, just my 2 cents.

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    x's are x's for a reason and people are not property... let them do what they will.
    You need to be indifferent for the sake of your own health.

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    Quote Originally Posted by l3uddha View Post
    i had a good friend stab me in the back recently. my opinion- who fucking needs him?
    we were never good friends

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    Quote Originally Posted by nefarious View Post
    x's are x's for a reason and people are not property... let them do what they will.
    You need to be indifferent for the sake of your own health.

    +1

    Okay, granted, your friend should have had the balls to let you know he was seeing your ex. But aside from that, why do you care? She is your ex. As in, relationship over. She is not beholden to you in any way, and there's no logical reason your friend shouldn't date her.

    But I agree that your friend has been showing a lack of respect by not letting you know what was going on. I'd be way more pissed about that than about him sleeping with her. And there's no reason for you not to tell him it pisses you off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by l3uddha View Post
    should i tell them just what exactly you tried to stab me in teh back with???
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    I understand that women are not property... but out of respect for friends you don't do this shit. If i never dated her the two of them never would have met. not to mention we ended on fairly good terms, so who knows if we could have gotten back together at some point? hey at least i got a good laugh out of some of your responses.

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    Sounds like you are still holding a torch for her. best bet is to tell your friend it wasn't cool, and move on. My former crew member heard that me and my wife split up, and low and behold he hit on her! I didn't say a thing to him, since I don't see him that much anymore, but I got better fish to fry, and you should do like I did, and move on. I may have gotten lucky, because I did meet up with a great gal, and things are going well. I wouldn't dwell on things too much, you just gotta let it go, and carry on. You do have a wonderful woman still out there waiting to meet you.

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    Well I say it depends on how long you have been splilt up, why you split up and who broke up with who but in reality who cares. She is an ex of yours that you obviously still have atleast friend feelings for and he is supposed to be your best friend. If they can be together and be happy it should not matter to you. Hell one of my friends is married to one of my ex's and they got together a week after we broke up. Although he did ask me if I minded and I told him to go for it.

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    go take the bike for a ride and it wont bother you any more, there is so many better things to be doing then letting this piss you off. If after the ride its still bothering you mention it to him, just say something like "hey I saw you with (place x's name here) the other day, what's going on?" Best of luck man, and dress warm.

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    Whaddya still in love?

    You split up with her...get over it.

    Just ask your buddy how he likes the taste of your unit....that question should put distance between them and once they split, swoop in there for Round 2 and hit it like it's going out of style then post the pics here!


    Ultimately, you and the girl split up. Move on and don't lose any sleep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bergs View Post
    Whaddya still in love?

    You split up with her...get over it.

    Just ask your buddy how he likes the taste of your unit....that question should put distance between them and once they split, swoop in there for Round 2 and hit it like it's going out of style then post the pics here!

    Ultimately, you and the girl split up. Move on and don't lose any sleep.
    I had a similar situation...ran into the happy couple at dinner. I smirked and said to him, so, how do you like used pussy? He looked at me and said, "Once you get past the first 2 inches that were used its great?"

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