[97BladeRider]

Originally Posted by capt1014

You know it's kind of funny how a lot of people think that way.

1. Child support is for the children..............PERIOD!
If the kids have clothes on their back, food in thier stomach and a roof over their head, who cares how it get's spent.
2. The laws are no longer geared toward the women.

You screwed yourself really!

Oh ya and sorry to hear about the split.

My divorce cost me about 700 bucks...........any questions?

And it has been THE MOST blessed past 5 years of my life!!!!!!!!!

Actually, Akira's right about MA child support. They start with a percentage of the non-custodial parent's (typically the father's) income and work from there, regardless of how much it leaves the noncustodial parent when all is said and done.

As an example, I used the DOR calculator (Massachusetts Department of Revenue) to figure out a sample.

Father, makes $50K
Mother makes $30K
1 child, under age 13
Mother handles insurance for child and pays $100/week child care

The weekly order ends up being $250, or $13K annually.

Now this is untaxable income for the mother and the father cannot claim this anywhere. So, after taxes, the father clears MAYBE $30K, and has to pay out $13K by these guidelines.

And if the mother remarries, regardless of the new husband's income, things don't change. Actually, rightly so, because it's not the step-father's responsibility to pay for someone else's son.

As for my situation, I got off lightly. We agreed to suspended wage assignment, which means the DOR doesn't get involved. I deposit the support $ directly into her account from my paycheck. I have been fair over the years, increasing the amounts when I have received salary increases.

[richw]

Tell the FBI you have mob information

Big Tony Binladens falaful money laundering

Let them put you in witness protection

[wylee]

Originally Posted by capt1014

You know it's kind of funny how a lot of people think that way.

1. Child support is for the children..............PERIOD!
If the kids have clothes on their back, food in thier stomach and a roof over their head, who cares how it get's spent.

If that were only true. Yes, it's intended to be for the children, but all to often it becomes lifestyle support for the custodial parent and the kid gets jack's shit out of it.

Then of course you've got the dirtbags that think they should only pay $100 a month and can't even be bothered to pay that... Assholes!

[bergs]

Originally Posted by phishfood

Until then, the laws are very biased towards mommy.

Yes they are.......and especially in Mass.


Short story:

My uncle gets a divorce with Mass handling the case.

His ex makes at least 250k a year and, after everything was said and done, she STILL manages to fanagle $325 a WEEK out of my uncle for ONE kid.

Tell me how that's not biased...

[Jaynnus]

Originally Posted by Brit-Triple

How can anyone say BS, this state is obnoxious.

I CAN say bullshit.....I have three kids and get 32.00 a week. That was not a typo, 32.00

I would never contest, or ask for more even though I have every right to ask for a review every 6 years....they are my kids, and I can take care of them just fine.

As for the divorce...I think I paid 300.00. The trick is...don't fight over stupid material items. At one point in time you loved each other, or at least thought you did...suck it up, get together, be reasonable and work it out. It is not that hard. Anything he wanted....I gave him. All I wanted to was keep the last name so my kids always felt like they 'belonged' to me.

[phishfood]

Jaynnus, you do not equal most exs. Mine was going through law school at the time and it wasn't pretty, but could have been worse.

[Kitt]

Originally Posted by GixerJockey

I'm headed for it myself. Hopefully mine isn't as expensive. Thankfully the bikes are paid for...


Sorry to hear about your tough times... Better days are ahead... (or, at least, that's what I keep telling myself)

no way dude!

[tom5796]

Originally Posted by bergs

Yes they are.......and especially in Mass.

Completely, whole-heartedly, utterly agree.

[seth505]

Wow, sorry to hear about the bike going!

ps- wtf, is there anyone who rides bikes who hasn't been divorced??

[gregp]

Yes, relax, Seth. I've been riding my whole life and have now been married for 24 years. We have two kids, all grown up now. We get along better now than we ever have.
Of course she works nights and weekends, and I work days M-F. Maybe that has something to do with it

[seth505]

haha ok, well phew...glad its working for you

[richw]

We had a 3rd party put a value on everything...

then selected what pcs we wanted each then sold and balanced
the difference with cash.


La nuit, tous les chats sont gris

[capt1014]

Originally Posted by phishfood

Have to agree with that and also agree with 'that its for the children' part. However, I don't agree with the amount and how it ends up to my ex in the form of a blank check for her to do whatever she pleases with it.

I'd have a much better time if it arrived via bank card or check form where purchases could be tracked and I get a copy. Until then, the laws are very biased towards mommy.

When was the last time anyone really looked into the laws in mass and federal laws concerning divorce? Or case histories for that fact?

The more you look the more you see that it is an old wise tail that the laws are targeted to benefit women.

If you are going through a divorce look into the laws yourself, don't just let some lawyer tell you how it's going to be. Be poractive in your case, learn things protect yourself, because if you don't you will get screwed!

Remember, lawyers are only as proficient at their jobs as you are at yours.

I was lucky I did all the paperwork myself, I tried to find out as much as i possible could, I was not going to get fucked over cause she had an issue being married.

Child support, 33% + a % of what is left for the next kid and so on, it's Mass formula for child support, just deal with it, pay it, move on. As long as the kids are good as I said before, just my opinion and it's how I deal with it.

[bostongixxer]

Originally Posted by BostonSVkid

Wow thats a lot of doe and she takes half your pay check?

The state of mass usually just splits things in half and each go their own way UNLESS there is kids.

No...we have 2 kids...the check I cut to HER includes child support...something that I have no problem paying. She wanted a lot more than 1/2 in court, and tried to present how she makes no money (only works 10 hrs a week and has no desire to work more than that)...while her parents are feeding her cash all the time. She has no money worries (parents have money and she stands to inherit a lot..doesn't prevent her from seeking 1/2 my 401K)...but didn't want the judge to get that impression. A bunch of BS. Ultimately, I don't care...as long as she spends the extra money on the kids also, but I have no way of knowing that. Meanwhile, I'm paycheck-to-paycheck...but happier than I've been in years.

[Pigman]

Originally Posted by bostongixxer

It's finally happened. $8,000 and counting in attorneys fees have finally forced the sale of my Ducati 1098. I can no longer afford to keep it.

On the bright side, I bought this beastie (2007 GSXR-750), and will use the difference to pay down what I owe my attorney. I was destined to go back to a gixxah street bike.

Gotta have something for therapy RIGHT....nice ride man

[bostongixxer]

Originally Posted by Jaynnus

I CAN say bullshit.....I have three kids and get 32.00 a week. That was not a typo, 32.00

I would never contest, or ask for more even though I have every right to ask for a review every 6 years....they are my kids, and I can take care of them just fine.

As for the divorce...I think I paid 300.00. The trick is...don't fight over stupid material items. At one point in time you loved each other, or at least thought you did...suck it up, get together, be reasonable and work it out. It is not that hard. Anything he wanted....I gave him. All I wanted to was keep the last name so my kids always felt like they 'belonged' to me.

All we are fighting over is the house...here's my soon-to-be ex-wife's logic:

-her parents gave us a down payment on our first house
-we are now on our 3rd house and have built up a lot of equity
-I have no equity in our house because, but for the down payment, we couldn't have afforded the first house, which means we couldn't have bought the 2nd, etc..
-Bottom line, as she put it: I've been her tenant for the last 10 years.

This is why I'm fighting in court.

[Slyder27]

That sucks man. Sorry to hear about it (glad your happy, but still)

Doesn't work, wants everything handed to her, want want want....ugh.

Hey, it's the american way. I tripped over my own outta control kid in your store so now I'm suing you for 100 billion.

Never hitched, no kids, and after reading this post no friggin way would I ever move to MA. Well I wouldn't before, but still.

Congrats on the K7 750....hey wait, who the hell would want to ride a gixxer? damn POS pansy bikes

[Crash Dummy Denno]

Originally Posted by bostongixxer

Especially if you end up with Denno...

and to think i was feeling bad for you too


all BS aside, how's the knee doing?

[bostongixxer]

Originally Posted by Crash Dummy Denno

and to think i was feeling bad for you too


all BS aside, how's the knee doing?

It's better...but I'm still on crutches. Appears that I may dodge surgery, but will be looking at close to 3 mos of PT. I've had chronic pain since the crash, but it has lessoned over the last 4 - 5 days, and is now more intermittent.

How are you doing? Not the best luck last race weekend and at tony's. Hope you are feeling better. I'd like to try and catch one or more of your races Sunday...when are you running? Shoot me a pm.

[capt1014]

Originally Posted by bostongixxer

Meanwhile, I'm paycheck-to-paycheck...but happier than I've been in years.

AMEN!

[jnm988]

Originally Posted by Crash Dummy Denno

and to think i was feeling bad for you too

You know you love me and want to marry me

[TLRMan]

Originally Posted by bostongixxer

No...we have 2 kids...the check I cut to HER includes child support...something that I have no problem paying. She wanted a lot more than 1/2 in court, and tried to present how she makes no money (only works 10 hrs a week and has no desire to work more than that)...while her parents are feeding her cash all the time. She has no money worries (parents have money and she stands to inherit a lot..doesn't prevent her from seeking 1/2 my 401K)...but didn't want the judge to get that impression. A bunch of BS. Ultimately, I don't care...as long as she spends the extra money on the kids also, but I have no way of knowing that. Meanwhile, I'm paycheck-to-paycheck...but happier than I've been in years.

I feel for ya, My soon to be EX conjured up a restraining order, (kind of hard considering I never saw her),I guess her story worked, because the 1st Judge extended it for 4 months which was total BS. Went back after 4 months, had it reheard by another Judge, and he threw it out...Vacated!
Couldn't figure out why the order was tossed at me in the 1st. place.

So while all this no talk no see stuff was going on, she had HAWC believing she was a battered Wife, I guess at this point she went to the DOR, to nail me, meanwhile I'm in court seeking to pay child support, and she doesn't show up! I even signed paperwork to keep DOR out of it, GUESS WHAT? The DOR attached my friggen paycheck! (I was paying her directly) YUP, unless She tells them she doesn't want them involved, it stays. Then they went after me for non payment (I was paying her directly), and she had to sign more paperwork to tell them I already paid...I'm going back in to have it reduced, because one of my kids is emancipated, but the BS with the DOR is incredible! They are a bunch of mindless idiots.
This makes me look like a Dead Beat Dad, and I'm far from it!

End of rant.

[Brian675]

Originally Posted by Jaynnus

I CAN say bullshit.....I have three kids and get 32.00 a week. That was not a typo, 32.00

I would never contest, or ask for more even though I have every right to ask for a review every 6 years....they are my kids, and I can take care of them just fine.

As for the divorce...I think I paid 300.00. The trick is...don't fight over stupid material items. At one point in time you loved each other, or at least thought you did...suck it up, get together, be reasonable and work it out. It is not that hard. Anything he wanted....I gave him. All I wanted to was keep the last name so my kids always felt like they 'belonged' to me.

Sounds like your a very strong person and a dedicated Mother to your children.

[MissTwisties]

Originally Posted by Brian675

Sounds like your a very strong person and a dedicated Mother to your children.

Ditto... that, I think she is...no doubt.

[Ri_De_bike]

Originally Posted by TLRMan

I feel for ya, My soon to be EX conjured up a restraining order, (kind of hard considering I never saw her),I guess her story worked, because the 1st Judge extended it for 4 months which was total BS. Went back after 4 months, had it reheard by another Judge, and he threw it out...Vacated!
Couldn't figure out why the order was tossed at me in the 1st. place.

So while all this no talk no see stuff was going on, she had HAWC believing she was a battered Wife, I guess at this point she went to the DOR, to nail me, meanwhile I'm in court seeking to pay child support, and she doesn't show up! I even signed paperwork to keep DOR out of it, GUESS WHAT? The DOR attached my friggen paycheck! (I was paying her directly) YUP, unless She tells them she doesn't want them involved, it stays. Then they went after me for non payment (I was paying her directly), and she had to sign more paperwork to tell them I already paid...I'm going back in to have it reduced, because one of my kids is emancipated, but the BS with the DOR is incredible! They are a bunch of mindless idiots.
This makes me look like a Dead Beat Dad, and I'm far from it!

End of rant.

i wish i could say i was getting a kick out of these posts. i was in court on wednesday and the dor had also attached my paycheck. what the dor gets for staff is failed irs agents; the ones that are too crabby. with the dor there is NO due process. you are guilty until you prove your innocence; even then expect a month wait for determination. my insurance cards were refused, the group name and policy numbers were rejected. finally a letter from the carrier got me clear but it was three weeks before they decided.

my ex had three modification and a contempt all open at the same time. the contempt was thrown out of court. she used the dor AND the courts to harrass me and she gets away with it.... just remember "it's for the children" right?

a tip: keep good banking records. when the dor is involved you need them. if dor takes a claim on you (know or unknown) and you continue to pay support directly to your ex they have no record of the exchange.

my rant is also over