[RyanNicholson]

She's almost 21 with a 3 year old.....she's hot, shes mature, she's responsible, she's into cars/bikes, she's down to earth....her kid is pretty cool (I get along with kids well)...

I'm just not sure how I feel about being (or becoming) a major figure in this kids life...

anybody else been in a situation like this? this is a new one for me...

[Pittenger5]

The first time the kid calls you dad, run like the wind.

[1/2pint]

story sounds all to simular to mine and i ended up marring my Milf

[Nix]

Don't sweat the kid stuff bro. Enjoy your milf, post pics so us married guys can live vicariously through you, and just try to refrain from smacking the kid after he keeps you from hitting it when you're knee deep in the moment of passion.

EDIT: But park your shit around the block in case the nutty Papa comes lurking around.

[RyanNicholson]

Originally Posted by weman

story sounds all to simular to mine and i ended up marring my Milf

mar (mär)
tr.v. marred, mar·ring, mars
1. To inflict damage, especially disfiguring damage, on.
2. To impair the soundness, perfection, or integrity of; spoil

thats a little cruel dont ya think?

[trickphoto]

Wouldn't she technically be a MIF?

[1/2pint]

Originally Posted by RyanNicholson

mar (mär)
tr.v. marred, mar·ring, mars
1. To inflict damage, especially disfiguring damage, on.
2. To impair the soundness, perfection, or integrity of; spoil

thats a little cruel dont ya think?

6 beers at lunch don't help me with typing

[RyanNicholson]

Originally Posted by trickphoto

Wouldn't she technically be a MIF?

touche

Originally Posted by Nix

Don't sweat the kid stuff bro. Enjoy your milf, post pics so us married guys can live vicariously through you, and just try to refrain from smacking the kid after he keeps you from hitting it when you're knee deep in the moment of passion.

EDIT: But park your shit around the block in case the nutty Papa comes lurking around.

thats basically whats goin on anyway, i really dont mind the kid..hes cool shit...his middle name is "kaos" haha. I coach a lot of kids in ski jumping but I've always been able to return them back to their 'rents at the end of the day y'know? this is way different haha

[DBConz]

does she have MILF friends?

[1/2pint]

Originally Posted by DBConz

does she have MILF friends?

why bother you are gay

[KillBill]

I dated a "MIF" for a while and it wasn't the best
situation. She constantly felt guilty about spending time
away from her child when she was with me. And when she
was not with me she felt guilty. It's a very tough balancing act.

Good luck.

[DBConz]

why date them? just hook up and

[l3uddha]

you shoplifted the pooty.

[ChrisNoF4i]

Originally Posted by RyanNicholson

anybody else been in a situation like this? this is a new one for me...

My motto in life (one of them anyway) is: Never get so attached to something that may be difficult to leave at the drop of a hat. This includes kids and dogs. Think about that.

[RyanNicholson]

Originally Posted by ChrisNoF4i

My motto in life (one of them anyway) is: Never get so attached to something that may be difficult to leave at the drop of a hat. This includes kids and dogs. Think about that.

my dating record shows a pretty similar and proven thought process...its more the kid being attached or waking up one day and being an unofficial step-dad or something that i'm wondering/worried about. I dated a girl a while ago who had an AWESOME little brother that I took care of a lot and when I broke up with her it was rough on him. But he was like 10.

[mrs-naked]

Only ALMOST 21.... already has three kids and is considred a MILF....wow!!

[bigred875]

sounds like a lotta baggage.....

[RyanNicholson]

Originally Posted by mrs-naked

Only ALMOST 21.... already has three kids and is considred a MILF....wow!!

1 kid....that is 3 years old...I couldn't even imagine 3 of them haha

[DBConz]

Originally Posted by mrs-naked

Only ALMOST 21.... already has three kids and is considred a MILF....wow!!

one three year old, not three one year olds

[MissTwisties]

I guess I'd say follow your heart...every single situation is different for everyone. Time will tell if this relationship is meant to be, if you two complete each other, if you have lots in common and relly enjoy each others company, etc. But I can only say..please be carefull with the child. It's hard on them to get attached to someone, and then see them go. But I will hope the mother is also mature enough to do what's right for her child...

[mrs-naked]

awe...shit..my bad!!! I had to reread...that's what happens when you're on vacation all week!!! Even still, one kid is more thatn I want...and too much baggage in my opinion. Never date anyone with a kid

[SSearchVT]

Actually it's a MILFA... Mother I'd Like to F**k Again...

I was sort of in a similar situation (a little older, two boys, etc). The kid already has a father, so you're not going to fill that position. You can however be a positive model for him.

You're not the diciplinarian - that's the parents role. You are allowed to get mad if - for example he breaks something of yours. Let his mother know what he did. Let her be the one to hand out the punishments, etc. Be prepared to have dates cut short/cancelled at the drop of a hat. Things happen with kids.

Is she on good terms with her ex? If not, and he doesn't want her dating, he can make it real tough, real fast.

[mrs-naked]

you have a kid runnning around? Help, one of you is enough!

[DBConz]

Originally Posted by mrs-naked

you have a kid runnning around? Help, one of you is enough!

yikes! the world isnt ready for 2 denno's

[dankatz]

Agree with MissTwisties...be careful not to be around the kid too much in the beginning so that he/she does not get attached just to find out that you broke up a year later. It may not seem like a long time for you, but in a 3 year old's universe it is everything. Otherwise, I would not look at it as extra "baggage". At the end you won't care, assuming as you mature you'll eventually want your own kids.
Dani