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I haven't slept at all last night. Been awake, tossing and turning...my husband and I are furious. I'm debating what I should do today about something that happened yesterday with my youngest daughter, she is 9 years old.
Yesterday, my daughter was playing outside on our front lawn, chasing a little chipmunk, trying to find his hide-out and feed him "cheetos"...she was laying down on her stomach along the bushes edge that separate our lawn from my neighbor's lawn, looking for the little thing. In the bushes, there is a big gap (hole) that was created by my neighbor's dog a few years ago (before she finally decided to shorten her leash). My daughter was laying down on her stomach at this spot, when my neighbor was standing in her own driveway right on the other side of the edge, talking to a client. As soon as her client turned and left, my neighbor grabbed a handful of rocks from her driveway (it's all rocks, not paved) and she threw them all at my daughter. The rocks landed a couple feet from her face. My oldest daughter of 14 yrs old was also outside with her sister, she came back inside with her.
My daughter came rushing inside, crying and scared. She told me what happened. At first, I was so shocked by her story, my husband and I actually doubted her. I went outside and stood near the street for about 10 minutes, waiting and hoping my neighbor would come out (I will NOT set foot on her property so she can attack me in any way). She finally came out, getting ready to leave in her suv. I looked at her and called her by her name...she saw me and before I could even say a word, started yelling and fuming at me, saying that my daughter was "eves-dropping on a private conversation she was having with a client". I told her "So you justified throwing rocks at her??!!". I also told her that my daughter was playing on OUR lawn, OUR property and that she had every right to be anywhere she wanted to, also told her she was playing with a chipmunk, she couldn't care less about some business related conversation. Told her that as a grown-up woman, she acted less mature than a 5 years old. Which mature adult goes and throw rocks at a little kid just for spite? Had it been my husband on the other side of the edge trimming bushes and hearing her conversation, would she have thrown rocks at him? I don't think so...
She then threw her purse on the ground, turned around to grab a handful of rocks (I pulled back, thinking she was going to throw rocks at me) but she threw the rocks towards the hole where my daughter was laying down earlier, to show me what she did, yelling that the rocks didn't hit her face. I asked her "Since when can someone judge the exact speed and distance a thrown object will travel before it hits someone's face?" She busted out of her driveway telling me "Don't fuck with me right now"...I answered her "You just fucked with my child, not the other way around" and proceeded to advise her that she better lay off her stupid shit and if she ever hurt one of my kids, she'd be in a world of pain having us sueing her ass in court. About 15 minutes later, I was at the police station to report the incident. The cops told me I did the right thing by keeping this from escalating and that they would go and talk to her...she was not home when they came by...
So my dilemma this morning...I spoke to one of NESR resident's attorney yesterday evening. I was not aware that what she did was considered "assault". I always thought the word meant that you actually hit/punch/attacked someone...(if I translate it from french...). He told me that assault here means there is no physical contact, but there is an intent to scare, intimidate and hurt someone. And since she used rocks to throw at my daughter...I read it could also go as far as being considered assault with dangerous weapon. So he advised me to go back see the cops today and press charges and ask for a possible restraining order against her. "Set an exemple, so she doesn't do it again" he said, so she knows that she cannot get away with shit like that. But if she is eventually found guilty, she would end up with a criminal record and loose her job surely, as she is a school bus driver.
I am thorn...am I over-reacting/over-doing it if I go back and press charges? My daughter didn't get hit in the face, luckily. But she could have. Had she come inside with blood on her face....We're not talking about young children getting mad at each other...this is a grown up woman in her 50's going after a 9 yrs old child for absolutly no reason. We're also worried that we go this route, she'll come back on us with a vengeance and go completly ballistic. We don't want to find our cars messed up with, our property or wrose of all...our kids. We live in a small community, she's been raised here, owns and run a business here, she knows an awful lot of people. I think she even has friends in the police station. What would you do...
We have had issues with our neighbor for quite some time. We always tried to be good neighbors with her and she always kept on pulling some new shit to try to piss us off. Stuff like gossiping about our family to all the neighbors and other residents, her and her adults kids parking on our front lawn (yes, they did damage our lawn with their vehicles), throwing trash across the fence onto our property, one of their dog with a vicious attitude being loose on the streets and coming onto our property in the morning to sit literally in front of my door, growling at my kids when they needed to get out for the bus, etc. etc.
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Originally Posted by VinceF2
(I know..freakin long post to read...lol) She is a divorced woman, always gossiping about everyone and she has been getting away with a load of shit for quite some time.
Give her chlamydia.
